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Some synonyms of outliers are deviated, anomaly, oddity, abnormality, unconformity, departure, and any other word that means something that stands apart from the rest of society, or a person or group who does not conform with accepted norms or rules.

Nothing about belonging to this particular group of outliers is worth bragging about. These outliers are thieves in the vilest sense of the word. Yes, I was caught in this web of lies until this morning when a new phone number showed up in my contact book for Jeremy. I knew for certain that I caught him and there were no explanations that were believable; and so, did he. Jeremy Clark is vicious in light of his ability to hook women so he can convince these women of his faithful and undying love in the shortest possible amount of time. Jeremy was well taught for he and those he teaches could sell a deep freeze to Eskimos, love to a widow, and fulfil his insatiable need for money.

This a two-edged sword to say the least. Life plays tug of war with our hearts. Elation is in one direction and disappointment in the other. Trying to recover from this heart-breaking trauma we feel as if it is three steps forward (he stole from me)) and back three (but he loves me) and it continues until we finally see them for what they really are. They are vile thieves who have no conscience.

I am not a toxic person, but I was called one several times by Jeremy. I had never done anything like this to anyone. What I had done was put his information online for everyone who wants to look can read about not only my situation, but about hundreds of innocent women who fall for anyone in this unfortunate group of people. I first put this information online in the summer of 2019.

My guess is that he lines his own pockets. Unfortunately, he did totally fool me at times, and I did fall in love with him. (Dreams and reality} proof of my suspicions is in many of my writings and published articles., and these led me into the troubled waters with one who has mastered the art of scamming. This is where my own lack of self-worth snapped shut the trap that has held me captive for three years while he has fed me continuously a special diet mixed with lies and poisonous words of love; and while I suspected him all along, he tried to gaslight me each time I’d catch him and call him out on his lies. Jeremy, I know you told me your first ten years were spent in Switzerland not Singapore like you told me recently.

You may wonder why I word this story the way I do, because it is I who lost so much money to whoever this goes to. There is no telling if the money goes into their own pockets, or for laundering, or to support a boss’s lifestyle, or to buy arms for countries at war and sell them on the black market. I really couldn’t tell you. So many times he’s tried to gaslight me, but I knew what he had told me, I know each time he is trying to gaslight me and I call him on it but he just gets mad and tells me I’m losing my mind. So many things gave him away, but I set those aside and let them go.

He and hundreds of others like him know just from listening to what is said what women want and need to hear. It appeared to me that he knew me better than many people who have known me for years. He knew exactly what I needed to hear, and then he simply sweetened my life with his poisonous words and I was his. Even though I put my trust in him, I had nagging doubts about him being real from the beginning. I listened intently to each thing he said, and many of the things he told me I checked out myself. I caught him in several lies but made excuses for him and told myself that he must have meant or said something different. With his words of love, I became disoriented beyond the point of being able to distinguish the truth from the lies and I could not say with any certainty which of his words were true, or which of his words were false. Yet I listened intently to what he said too and gained as much knowledge of him as he did of me.

They are COWARDS in every sense of the word and YES, I said COWARDS., all in caps They hide behind their phones while speaking poisonous words of love to you and do not even deny what you accuse them of. They are evasive when you ask them questions while they try to change the subject. When they do decide to give an answer because you keep asking until they do give an answer but it is hesitant and vague Their words are empty leaving your questions unanswered which just adds insult to injury. Then they wonder why you don’t trust them and they even act indignant at any suggestion that they’ve not been anything but honest with you.

He did sweep me off my feet and that was no secret; for my love for him obvious to those few that knew about him. He has a thick accent and was supposed to have been born in the US but he said that his accent was because his family lived in Switzerland for the first ten years of his life. Recently he told me it was Singapore.

Each time we have had a fight, it’s been the same one. I believe you scammed me. I believed it yesterday, I believe it today, and I will still believe it tomorrow. You may wonder if I knew these things, why did I stay for three years? And why did I let him rob me of so much?

It was his words filled with poison. It was his wonderful words I’ve never heard coming from any man and directed at me before not even from my late husband of thirty years. His words are pure poison. Any woman who has been taken in the same way will probably say the same thing. I had so much attention given to me by Jeremy, it was as if I had been starving for lack of it. His words were wonderful and they made me feel on top of the world. I felt as if I was back in my 30’s again, not in my 70’s. I felt more alive than ever. His attention and words of love gave me confidence in myself that I was a person that was loveable. I wasn’t just an old lady, he made me feel alive and young again he made me feel as if I were a valuable person.”

Am I not the most to be pitied that I needed such a man to make me see worth in myself? He made me feel good and robbed me while he was doing that.

His words were always kind and loving, his voice soft. He showered me with attention constantly and made me feel as if I were the most important thing in his life. He was romantic, and had no problem telling me he loved me.

In January of this year, everything I had been thinking about for the past three years had been building up inside and again I could no longer keep silent. I said a lot of things. I told him that his accent was Nigerian, and that he lives there. I reminded him that I’ve had shadows of doubt that nagged at me almost all the time. The fights we’ve had were all because of me feeling he was scamming me. At that time, I told him I no longer believed his stories. The words I spoke to him I still believe even more so today.

While I suspected all along that he was stealing from me I did feel that it was only money that he took from me; Even as I am writing this, my mind is telling me that he cares nothing for me, feels no shame and will show no remorse when he’s caught. If perchance he feels any shred of remorse, it’s only because he got caught, not because he’s sorry he steals from widows. By the way, I had a nice talk with the FBI two years ago. I handed in a report to them and the FTC about you, and your stories.

I really don’t owe Jeremy a thing, not even an explanation. He doesn’t care about me.  Not only do scammers not care about you, but they do not care how far into debt you get into. They just want money. They just want you to keep on sending it. They are good at what they do and what is it that they do? They make women fall in love with them and shortly begin to ask money from them through many excuses. Until this morning I felt that a liar could not be so good at pretending and could not fake it but they can. They rob you while you love them. They do it in private for a living.